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Divorce or separate with Dignity
Avoid acrimony and anger - stay focussed on what you want to achieve!
For most people divorce or separation is a traumatic experience. Even when the divorce or separation is a mutually agreed course of action, there are often emotions which surface unexpectedly. Future dreams of a life together have been shattered and this loss of a promised future can dent even the strongest self esteem and self worth.
Whether the instigator or the unwilling participant in the change that is occurring in your life, emotions such as hurt, disappointment, rage, anger and fear are never far from the surface, whether it is fear about your future or anger at what is being forced on you make no mistake there will be emotions.
Decisions on where to live and financial issues all come packaged in a sea of emotions and can be overwhelming. When it feels like your life is being turned upside down and there is no hiding place from the momentum being experienced, this is when support is really needed to carry you through to the next phase of your life.
When possessions are being shared and distributed, when your home may need to be sold to finance the way forward fear and hurt can surface and swamp your clarity.
If there are children who need to be cared for and financially supported, or when children are being allocated time with each parent, emotions can feel raw and out of control.
Children in the middle of a divorce, can often become the innocent victims of the divorcing parents. It is important to remember that although you as parents may be divorcing, the children are not divorcing from their parents, they will still need to have a relationship with both parents and regular contact and they need feel that it is o.k. for them to love both parents without taking sides.
Working with someone who specialises in dealing with emotions, can be a tremendous help at this time of change.
Contact: christina@divorcewithdignity.me.uk
This is someone who is there just for you - just for you to mull things over with in a clear and free way. Someone who can be completely objective and able to help you work through your emotional struggles, this will help you to see the facts and figures in a clear and unemotional way.
Clarity and calmness is vital as this will help you to get the outcome you desire, by staying unemotional you are far more likely to assist matters and avoid confusing complex information.
This is a time and space for you to gain clarity and a way forward that will help you to get what you want and come through the time of distress with dignity, developing powerful, strong negotiation skills which are free from unhelpful emotions.
Divorce with Dignity will help you to :
manage your anger, hurt, fear and resentment
prepare you for your day in court
stay focussed on your outcome
achieve the best results
face the future baggage-free
plan for the next step in your life's journey
Contact: christina@divorcewithdignity.me.uk
Through my years of working with both women and men who are going through a divorce, I know that it is the emotional roller coaster that creates the most difficulty. An unexpected phone call or message can engender turmoil and uncertainty, leaving you raw and feeling powerless.
When you are angry or feeling hurt you are more likely to do or say things that you later regret. Children who are the innocent victims in divorce can be piggy in the middle of this adult battlefield and not know which way to turn. They may even feel guilty and take things onto their own shoulders. Children need to be protected from the adult drama as much as possible, they need to be the focus of keeping their life as stable as possible.
There is light at the end of the tunnel and by working with Divorce with Dignity you will have the opportunity to build your resources to such a level that you can meet with your ex, your legal team, your children, in a strong place free from emotions that can cause lack of clarity. Focussing your energy in creating a desirable and healthy future.
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